"Where you now stand is a result of thoughts and feelings that you have offered before, but where you are going is a result of your perspective of where you now stand." 
~Esther Hicks
Sunday, 03 February 2013 00:00

Knowing your Worth

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I was speaking to a fairly new business owner recently, who was feeling high level of anxiety and frustrations over her business. As I was speaking to her, I could sense the fear, doubt, and frustration that were coming up for her around the security of her business.

As we dug deeper into her feelings and sharing tools to help change her perception, which would allow her to see more solutions vs. feeling like a victim, an interesting realization surfaced. Although, it was her desire to succeed and thrive in her business, deep down she did not feel worthy of it. She also realized that subconsciously she felt that she had to struggle. This deep rooted belief then became her reality. It was such a great awakening for her and I truly believe the start to her turning her feelings and business around. Her feeling of unworthiness and need to struggle is a perfect example of how big our past programming and conditioning plays in our lives. Many of us grew up in a household where money was scarce and as such we developed the belief that money is hard to come by and struggling is a natural way to live. Beliefs like this relate to all areas of our lives, and we bring them with us in everything we do! This is the very reason why many personal growth (I don't like calling it self-help because we always require the support of others :)) literatures and programs often state that we don't go searching to "find" happiness and abundance. It is all inside us. All we need to do is identify and remove the blocks which we have built up against it. These blocks includes feelings of unworthiness and need for struggle that we have picked up growing up, which is now preventing us from living happy and fulfilled lives; which we were all born to live.
 
Understanding our sense of self and living an empowered life is essential to changing negative perceptions and programming that often prevent us from being successful in our goals. Below are some tools I shared in a past workshop that will help you take back your power and start building a better relationship with yourself. Having a sense of who we truly are connects us back to the divine power needed to co-create the life of our dreams.
 
Know your true self - I remind myself that I am an extraordinary divine being, whose happiness and abundance was given to me at birth. I own the power of Spirit within me and know that God/Universe/Source walks with me always. This sense of power has carried me through difficult situations and allows me to hold myself up, and approach whatever situation that I must face with confidence.
 
Ditch the inner critic - Ditch that small voice of the ego that tells you that you are neither good enough nor worthy of your goals. It's time to call b.s. on that voice and prove it wrong by stepping out with faith and taking action towards your goals. When that voice acts up, remind them of the point above; that you are divine and meant for love and happiness and walk with the highest power.
 
Break your inner glass ceiling - We've all heard of the glass ceiling in the corporate world, where no matter what we do or how hard we work, there is a glass ceiling that we feel we just can't break through. Well, the same holds true internally. We have this limited thinking of what we can or can't do. We've created a set point through our past programming that limits our capability. For example, we can't see ourselves being below a certain weight because we are "big boned" or our business can never make that much money because we are a small business that can only grow so much. Or that man will never speak to me; "he's way out of my league". We've set so many false limits on ourselves. It is important to realize that our limit is only based on what we chose to be true for ourselves. We must always remember we are abundant beings and that our eyes and ears cannot comprehend the abundance that is waiting for us to claim. Everything we need to be fulfilled and happy is inside of us. I know this sounds like such a cliché, but it's true! We just need to remove our self limiting beliefs about ourselves that holds us back and keeps us stagnant.
 
Be conscious of your internal and outer dialogue - Watch the language you use to describe yourself. Many times, we say "I can't, I'm not good enough, I don't have enough" etc. We need to remember that our self talk turns into stories, which then becomes our beliefs; thus we've just programmed ourselves. We then experience these beliefs and programming in our physical environment. We need to harness and master our thoughts and self talk to empower us. Using affirmations and consciously intending your wishes and knowing that it will come to you is one of the ways to do this. It was spoken in my Life Mastery course that if God/Universe hears all, then every thought and word spoken is a prayer. What are you praying? Would you want your thoughts and words to materialize? Be conscious of your thoughts and speak words that best serve you.

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