"Where you now stand is a result of thoughts and feelings that you have offered before, but where you are going is a result of your perspective of where you now stand." 
~Esther Hicks
Sunday, 18 August 2013 00:00

Stay Calm - Everything Always Works Out!

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At some points in our lives, we will come against an experience that puts us to the test. This happened to me a couple of days ago. You see I had an event that I was to speak at. I had 41 people (which would have been my largest crowd yet) show up to hear me speak.

Unbeknownst to me, a 1 ½hr drive was to take almost 3 hours! I was an hour late for this event, and the 41 people that came out ended up being 12, as most went home.
You can imagine my state as I tried to make my way down to the event and knowing every minute that passed I was getting later and later. It was not really the number of people that caused my concern, but rather the time that they had spent waiting for me and the feeling that I was letting so many people down.
One of the things I kept reminding myself was that there are lessons to be learnt and that everything always works out. It was very hard if not impossible for me to see it at the moment because of all the negative emotions that was coming up for me.
When I arrived, I had 30 minutes left and a lot to cover. The organizer left the decision to me. I took a look at the people that came all that way and waited a full hour for me, and decided to go ahead and present and cover as much as I can in our time together. Now, you have to understand before I give a talk I normally like to centre myself and say a quick prayer. However, this time I literally ran into the room completely out of breath. Once I made the decision to speak, I took a deep breath to connect myself to my Inner Guide, who knew all too well the emotions that I was feeling.
After my talk, I had the participants tell me how much it was worth the wait and a dear lady that told me she came all the way from Ottawa (event in Toronto) to hear me speak (so happy I decided to go ahead and speak!). This event taught me many lessons that I want to share:
1)      You cannot always control what happens, but rather your reaction to what happens. I offered to do a pre-recorded seminar of the event for the coordinator to send to the 41 people that was there. Result - the coordinator was so pleased, and because of the positive response from those that stayed, is now sending the recording to the entire group of 300 that is a part of their network. I would never have offered this, had I not been so late, and now have a greater opportunity to serve more people as a result!
2)     Forgive Yourself - I was really beating myself up for letting so many people down. THIS DOES NOT HELP! It only adds to the negative emotions and vibration. As long as you did your best, take responsibility, apologize and see how you can make it right (there is always a way); that is enough!
3)     Focus on the Solutions rather than the Problem - Initially I was so focused on the lateness and how I let people down that I was blind to what can be done. It was not until I hopped off "the dark train" that I was able to see a solution that would benefit those that missed the event and went home, which was to pre-record it and have it available for them to access on their own time.
4)     Remember that Everything Always Works Out (EAWO) - This is something that I learnt from Master Life Coach Mark Fournier in his amazing program (which I have the honour to facilitate) Life Mastery. No matter what situation you find yourself in and whatever mistakes you may have made, it is not the end. Everything always works out! It may not have been as you planned, but it always does. As long as you focus on the solutions instead of the problems you will come to see it working out much faster!


  • Comment Link Uchechi Ezurike-Bosse Monday, 02 September 2013 14:05 posted by Uchechi Ezurike-Bosse

    You're very welcomed Lisa and thank you for sharing your comments with us. So true about teaching our children. This is something I've become conscious of as my little one recently turned 3 and I notice just how much he watches my behaviour and trying hard to model the behaviours I want him to learn. Def not an easy task, but I just keep working on it! All the best to you too!

  • Comment Link lisajwood@att.net Sunday, 01 September 2013 16:25 posted by lisajwood@att.net

    Hi Uchechi,

    Great article. Applying these steps to a real life story is so beneficial for all to hear. I love trying to help my children understand important truths by relating them to what happens in life. Thanks for sharing this. :)
    All my best,

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